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Non-reaction is a language that everyone understands. It communicates to the offender and causes him to be upset with the upset that he intended for you.

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Imagine that someone said or did something cruel to you, but that you did not react in any way whatsoever – you did not become upset, resentful or even ruffled. You simply observed that this person was saying or doing something cruel, as though you were calmly observing the scene in a movie. You simply would not be stressed by what would appear to others to be a highly stressful encounter. Stress and cruelty affect us as profoundly as they do only because we react to them resentfully.

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Principal Principal: Where’s your late pass, mister? Errant Student: I’m on my way to get one now. PP: But you can’t be in the hall without a pass. ES: I know, I’m so upset. That’s why I need to hurry, so I can get a pass. Principal Principal pauses with a look on his face like Daffy Duck’s when Bugs is pulling a fast one. PP: Well, hurry up, then, and get that pass.

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It is fine to be upset, but that won’t get you anywhere. You gotta think about what you can learn from this. So far, looks like all you’ve learned is how to beat up on something that can’t beat you back.